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Meet Me Monday: Keep Calm

Meet Me Monday is back, this week. 🙂 I will be the first to admit that I am not the best at blogging about myself. I consider myself to be a private person. In fact, my mom always told me that it was ok to share my feelings; to cry. You see, I am a “bottler.” I  hold my emotions in and take them to the Lord in prayer. I am a very patient, calm, quiet rock that my friends will tell you can take a secret to the grave. My MOB’s ask me all the time how I am so calm and how I keep it together.

Why do I tell you this? I believe this makes me different than other wedding planners and designers. This makes me great.

Recently I have heard more stories from brides and creative teams about planners in the industry that are very unsettling. I’ve heard of venues upset about planners asking to use the venue staff as part of their own staff, because they can’t handle the wedding the said they could. A CLE team member recently ran into a bride in Starbucks  that felt sorry for her planner because the planner was so busy she seemed stressed. The sad thing is I had a caterer point out how stressful it was working with the said planner a few weeks before. No. No. No.

First, The CLE team will never (they say never say never, but I mean it) take on an event that we can not handle. With budgets from very small to very large, no matter the profit, possible portfolio, etc. if I can not fully execute the wedding of my clients dreams I will say no. I would never take on an event and then try to take staff from my creative teams to handle my logistics. This is wrong on so many levels. The sad part is the client has no idea this planner is freaking out to everyone in the industry because she doesn’t feel she can handle a wedding that is still half a year away.

Second, I am never ever too busy for my brides, nor do I act like I am pulled thin. Yes, I have been sick, but by golly I still work from my bed until I just can’t. Yes, I go to conferences to continue growing and offering the absolute best of the best to my clients, but it’s all about scheduling. I never talk  to my brides like they are a burden, nor have I put them on the back burner while I work other events.

Third, when working with all of my creative teams I am, again, calm as a cucumber. You see. If I am stressed, a creative team becomes stressed and the disease spreads. Then everyone is in a panic instead of focusing on how they can be great to have one awesome event. It is my job to keep everyone excited and happy so when the couple shows up everyone is ready to give them the party of their life.

Yes, I have had a cake fall over 4 hours before the wedding, a brides wedding dress rip down her entire back during her first dance, a MOB’s dress rip when she sat down for the ceremony, red wine spill all over a lace gown, a wedding dress completely ruined 2 weeks before the wedding from the cleaner, a venue rip up the only way to get to the ceremony site the day before the wedding and on and on.  Every single one of these things were taken care of and not one person knew unless the bride decided to tell her wedding day story. I have had tears shed and jaws drop  to the floor (I give really awesome hugs), but if I am not calm then the situation jumps into a downward spiral very fast.

God tells us to be His hands and feet. He also tells us to give joyfully; it is more of a blessing to give than receive. I am in the business of servanthood and I love my job. I seriously can not express to you how blessed I am to do what I do. I have the most amazing clients, brides, grooms and families I get to call friends. I have the most amazing team members that believe the same principals of being great. Time and  time again when people say “I don’t know how you do it,” I know that God gave me this time and place to be His hands and feet. Boy oh boy, does it feel good!

I did not share these stories today to point fingers, but  to enlighten. Being a planner is not meant for everyone. My job is not like the movies. It is a lot harder, but it is so much better!

I wanted to share the importance of hiring a calm wedding planner for you to see how a disease can spread. So, ask questions. When you go to meet with a planner ask them how they handle a freak situation. Ask them what they would do if A or B happened. Make sure you love your planner like part of your family. It is our goal at CLE for our brides to enjoy their wedding planning process and their wedding day more than they thought possible. Plus, we love being the big sister that is a long for all of the fun.

There are so many stories that overshadow the small things that can go wrong a wedding day. That is why we are here. The CLE team is here to handle those, so that you can enjoy your day. We will let you know everything you want to know after you get back from your honeymoon. 🙂

xo Christina

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Francesca Barger - September 30, 2013 - 5:56 PM

Such a great post to read. How inspiring! God equips us for what He’s called us to–your grace under pressure & heart for doing what you love is evidence that’s you’re in the center of His will. Keep on keeping on! We (I do speak for everyone!) need what you’re bringing to the table. Hear, hear!

Emily @ Southern Weddings - October 1, 2013 - 8:26 AM

Love you! This is why you are the best 🙂

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Christina L. Frederick - October 1, 2013 - 11:32 AM

Thank you sweet, Emily! Your comment means a lot! 🙂
xo Christina

Christina L. Frederick - October 1, 2013 - 11:32 AM

Thank you for the kind note, Francesca!
xo Christina

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